A Little Guidance Please

This is a church post. I need advice, input, guidance and prayer. Background first. I attend a small neighborhood church, Southern Baptist by affiliation. The time has come to appoint new and younger deacons to serve. There is a nomination that is under consideration that really is bothering me. These are the verses that I am referencing for this argument:

The qualifications for deacons (Acts 6:3; 1 Tim 3:8-12)
But select from among you, brethren, seven men of good reputation, full of the Spirit and of wisdom, whom we may put in charge of this task. (Acts 6:3)

Deacons likewise must be dignified, not double tongued, or addicted to much wine or fond of sordid gain, but holding to the mystery of the faith with a clear conscience. And let these also first be tested; then let them serve as deacons if they are beyond reproach. Women must likewise be dignified, not malicious gossips, but temperate, faithful in all things. Let deacons be husbands of one wife, and good managers of their children and their own households. (1 Tim 3:8-12)

The man currently being considered is twice. He has admitted to me that it was not biblical. He kicked her out. This was many years ago. He remarried and was widowed. Over the last few years he has displayed an interest ( everyone has noticed and commented, we are only human) in the piano player. She is married. She is married. He knows she is married,Everyone knows she is married. She seems to enjoy the attention from this man. He also cannot keep a secret. He knows everyone's business and will tell everyone about everyone else....

Whatever...... The situation is a huge mess.

Now.... he is nominated as a deacon????? What the Heck is going on. He is not a man of good reputation. He is divorced. He is chasing the skirts of a married woman. He is an idle gossiper...

When it became evident that the nomination was being made, my gut has been in knots. Cramps, upset stomach, and a few visits to the the bathroom.

What does my husband say, you might be asking. He too was nominated to serve as a deacon. He is a man of few words, but past conversations about this particular subject, he too is concerned with the divorced man's reputation and his ability to serve. Will my husband say anything? That remains to be seen. Tonight is the quarterly business meeting where the topic is open for debate.

I will say something. I cannot be of good cheer, nor will my stomach settle down until I do.
Please pray for me.