There is a pattern here that is repeating itself. It involves my oldest son, a 34 year old electrician......with a drinking problem. This weekend, he was in a fender bender. He rear-ended a Mercedes at a stoplight. He did stop and he exchanged information with the driver Mercedes. The police were called and while they were waiting for the police to arrive he called me.
Usually when he calls at night, late at night it's never a good thing. He proceeded to tell me that he was in an accident and that he's been drinking and that he knows he is going to jail. So what do you say when your son calls you with that information? I guess you don't want to get that call from a child but when you do what you say?
I just agreed with him that yes he should not have been drinking and yes he should not have been driving and yes he's going to jail. After the cops got there and he was arrested I called his sister to let her know. His truck which is paid for isn't her name so he could afford the insurance. We just wanted to make sure that no one was hurt during this accident and so far as we know there were no injuries except the vehicles in question.
This is his third time being charged with the DUI. We don't know what his bloodbath blood alcohol level was. He refused the breathalyzer which results in automatic license suspension of 12 months. Florida law is pretty clear when this is your third time being charged and convicted of a DUI.
You stand to lose your license for 10 years. You will pay between $2000 and $4000 in fines. You will pay for your counseling. You pay for everything when you're charged and convicted of a DUI. And you will serve a mandatory 30 days in Jail at least!
This is such a mess for our family. I should say it's more of a mess for my son but the no matter how hard we try it tends to affect us as well. Of course this involves money. My children inherited CDs for my mom. But the CDs are in a safe deposit box in the bank. And mom's estate is going through probate so we don't have access to that safety deposit box or herother bank accounts.
The boy is going to need some money for his lawyer. And God knows, he needs a lawyer this time. I'm going to let him borrow money from his lawyer against his inheritance. He will sign a paper stating that I will get back when he borrowed from his inheritance so I won't be out anymore money.
There's another fly in the ointment with the story. I rented my mom's house to him and his girlfriend for operating costs to help them out. Yes, I do know that I am an enabler. But I always have eternal hope for his success. But I might be the problem for him to obtain his success because I do enable him all the time. My concern is that was when he goes to jail for his mandatory 30 days how's the rent going to be paid? His girlfriend is not stable, can't hold a job and is part of his problem too.
The plus side of this is that they only signed a six-month lease. So at the end of December the will be looking for a new place to live. That's if things don't go smoothly and the rent is not paid. I have a feeling that the girlfriends mother would pay the rent just so the girlfriend wouldn't have to move back home. So I probably don't have to worry too much about the rent being paid.
What I'm truly hoping for with this third arrest for his DUI, is that he will go to rehab. He needs help, and we want him to get better. He doesn't see that he needs rehab he thinks counseling will do it. I think it's time for us just to let him go and let God continue the work in him. I have put my son on my Sunday school prayer list for a long time. I just have to let God take over and I have to stop enabling him. But honestly, it's going to be hard for me to stop. I have done it for so long.
He meets with hs lawyer today so we should have some news later on about the outcome of the situation. He's going to get the truck out of his sisters name and into his girlfriend's name. I think that's a mistake, but that's his mistake to make. I think he just needs to have lose everything to realize that he does need serious serious help.
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